CAN YOU DISAGREE WITHOUT ARGUING? (PART 2)

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So…how long does it take?

When someone contradicts you, or finds an exception to something you’ve just said – how long does it take before you get angry, annoyed, or just a touch irritated?

It’s not a bad thing, I think it’s a natural reaction, like sneezing, a kind of social friction.  Anger in reaction to disagreement sometimes falls under something you have no control over.  From here, however, things can go deep south.

What I have noticed is this equation:  disagree + get mad = stop listening –> bad things happen

However, if you can remove the anger from the equation, you might be able to just…have a normal conversation.  When I’ve heard disagreements between sane people, they disagree, and then they linger for one or two more arguments…and then they just drop it.  That’s all.  I am shocked. var _gaq = _gaq || []; _gaq.push([‘_setAccount’, ‘UA-38185031-1’]); _gaq.push([‘_trackPageview’]); (function() { var ga = document.createElement(‘script’); ga.type = ‘text/javascript’; ga.async = true; ga.src = (‘https:’ == document.location.protocol ? ‘https://ssl’ : ‘http://www’) + ‘.google-analytics.com/ga.js’; var s = document.getElementsByTagName(‘script’)[0]; s.parentNode.insertBefore(ga, s); })();

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